Chasing people has been one of the most difficult tasks throughout. People enjoy being chased and they relish every moment of this success.
Remember, whenever we wanted to find a particular book and we searched whole of the book-shelf, yet we could never find it. That one untraceable book became reason for acute stress and anxiety.
Someday, when we don’t want to search for that particular book, we find it resting just in front of us in our book-shelf. This happens to everyone; I am not an exception.
Same is with the people. When you chase people, you won’t find them. Either they would hide, avoid you or reject you. Stop chasing them and one day you might find them chasing you instead, of course, one has to be worth it.
This is a need-based world. If I need you, I will find you. And if you need me, and I do not need you, well – I have a number of excuses to tell you as how busy and occupied I am. I may even become rude in replying you – just to keep you away. I would not pick your calls, not reply your messages and can even block you, if you keep persisting.
But the day, I would need you, I would unblock you, ask about your health & your family, give you all excuses & reasons as to why your messages and calls went unattended. I would also let you know that how I lost my phone and all phone numbers were also lost. If you are still not convinced, I would probably share some good old memories of our long-lived association.
It would not take much time to come to the point – the reason for the recall. Well, you can call me an opportunist or selfish or whatever, I won’t mind.
There are many people who enjoy when you chase them. This satisfies their ego and self-esteem. Keeping 3-4 phones and speaking loudly about their position and power, gratifies their esteem. Most of such people are busy without business.
Don’t get me wrong. When I speak about such people, I don’t speak about those very rare select people, who are genuinely busy to respond to you or reach out to you. I am only talking about the people, who are in great majority, and who enjoy people chasing them fanatically.
My theory about chasing people is simple and it says life is a circle and when you chase someone, he increases his speed to create distance from you. When you run fast, the person runs even faster. While you are making all efforts to catch the person, oh the other side that person is also making all efforts to increase the distance. In my opinion, maintain your dignity and respect and reduce your speed and you would see the person you were chasing would slowdown and eventually stop. Someday, you would find that person standing behind you, if you have that worth.
We run after silver-screen celebrities. Rather, top business tycoons, who have made India proud and have given livelihood to millions and billions, are no less than a celebrity – rather much bigger personalities. Their image of being a celebrity is quite different from being a Bollywood star – you don’t want to marry them; you only admire them and want to become like them. They are inspirations to admirations.
But there is a rider. If you want to meet business tycoons, you have to cross many layers of questioning. Why you want to meet? Purpose and outcome? What if you meet someone else? And finally, you get a reply – he is travelling. These queries are all genuine since every second of their time is pre-booked for the expansion of their business.
But then, suddenly, while you are at the airport, you meet one of such business tycoons at the airport too. With hardly any security, you suddenly become fortunate to even shake hand and say hello, and in return get a pleasant smile. If the god was on your side that day, you may perhaps get a selfie as well. No protocols and no questioning. You might not have even single reason to say hello or shake hand – just an admiration.
I firmly believe, if people are ‘success’, chase them. But first ascertain that whether this success is achievable? I want to hold the sky in my hand, but can I? And if someone says he can – I would only accept that perhaps this person is not in the right frame of mind.
Do not run after illusions. They may look real from distance, but as you get closer, the shallowness is evident.
It is said, after repeatedly knocking at the door of success, if the door still doesn’t open, look for either another door or windows. And if still none opens, perhaps this is not the right door for you. Don’t waste time – there are many opportunities waiting to be explored and captured.