Have you ever experienced a wave of negative energy when someone, you do not like, crosses you? There may be times, even though the person who crossed you, is unknown to you – yet you experience a storm of negative energy and you start feeling suffocating and your heart-beats become uneven. What remains is an unpresented and anxiety of unknown.
Trust me, I have experience of coming in contact with few such negative people who deprived me of my lunch and even dinner sometimes. The situations would suddenly become so complicated that I would not be able to have my meals.
Generally, you would find such people conspiring about others to damage them emotionally and professionally. As it is said – If you can’t destroy someone’s work, defame and spoil the name.
But having said this, I would also say that – if someone is attracting negative energy, this also means that the person has developed an inherent psychosis fear and that’s the reason, the heart is taking more burden than the mind. Negative energies survive on stress and pressure of people.
I remember an incident – In the year 1995, I had bought a new car – Maruti 800 – and as I was about to drive to office, my neighbour came running and congratulated me. But long-with his best wishes, he also made me realise how small my car was. He even commented on how miserably five people would fit into my Maruti 800 – though we were only three people at that time. He commented about power, fuel tank, boot space, pick-up, risk, etc. Overall, he made sure that my decision of buying a new car in no way matched his status, as he had a slight bigger car.
But while leaving, he still congratulated me – “Good, at least you bought a car. It is certainly better than your motorcycle. When are you celebrating? Do not forget to invite me. We all would join you.” As everyone, I also thought of putting him under the wheels.
My grandparents said – if a black-cat runs across your vehicle while you are about to leave, stop the vehicle and come back home, have water and then go.
So, in this situation too, I got down from my car, locked again and came back to my house – kept the keys on the feet of Bholenath and prayed for a while, picked-up the keys, and left for office.
I realised that there are few people in this world who are inherently depressed, cunning, jealous of anyone’s success, unhappy and suffocated. You can call them parasites.
I had a maths teacher who never had anything good to say about anyone in the class, particularly me. For him, even when I scored 100% in his subject, he expected an improvement. My marks always looked like obligations, and not earned. A feeling of a non-deserving student was always evident, and he made sure it was retained. One day I asked him – “Sir, is 100/100 not enough to prove that I am good?” He promptly replied – “Marks are fine, but you can still do better.”
What to speak about office work culture? Here people survive and thrive only by proving others as how ridiculously and incompetent they are. This is all done intentionally. A lot of planning goes behind all this harassment. On one side, they enjoy doing it, and on the other side, your irritation level spoils your entire day.
Fed up with such people, I decided to apply the approach of being busy – “I am busy and can’t talk right now.” Further, when such characters came to my cabin, I would instantly stand-up and move towards the door, pretending to be going for a meeting and then jokingly utter – “What new gossips you have – China whispers.” I would make them feel completely unwanted, undesirable and ensure that they know that I am not at all entertaining them. I also decided to not to shake hands with such people, particularly in public forums and also avoid their wishes.
I read a quote somewhere – “Say whatever you want to say about me and do whatever you want to do, add few more things from my side also – I do not have time to explain you or prove you wrong. I have stopped interacting with senseless people, they add you in their community.”